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How Do I Tell Her I'm Back to Reality Now?

I had fun last Summer with a new girl in town but she turned out to be kinda "wild". Now that we're back in school, she's trying to get me to do more dangerous things with her. I know I can't change her so how
do I let her know that last summer is over and I'm not really like that? I'm back to "reality" now. - Marisa, 15, New Mexico

"Hey, Marisa!" That's a tough question that just about everyone can relate to. I recognize how irritating dealing with this girl must be for you. After all, feelings are at stake, not to mention a friendship.

Firstly, I commend you for realizing that you cannot change *her*, just like she cannot change *you*. However, she may end up leading you down a dangerous path if you don't get a few boundaries straight. Next time she implores you to go off and do something "wild", or something not quite your taste, let her know with a simple, "You know, that's just not me. But don't let that stop you!"

Take any variation you wish, but in all cases, let her know that this has to do with the core of *you*: You do not share in her desire for wild exploits. After about the second or third time, she'll either take the hint and tone herself down, or just stop hanging around with you altogether. That choice is up to her. Just be careful, and remember to show respect.

Michelle, 16, Washington