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Hey Rachel! Your friend can have more than one bff. This girl doesn’t have to choose. She can hang out with anyone because its her choice. But why would your friend want to hang out with her? If she’s mean to you and disses you, then obliviously she isn’t a good friend. Your friend needs to talk to her and say "I don’t like it when you diss my friends. I want to be friends with them too. If you don’t stop, than I wont be your friend anymore." Hopefully, that mean girl will get the picture and will stop. Hoped I helped! – Haley, 11, Arizona

Dear Rachel, I'm wondering why your friend wants to be friends with her if she is always mean. My advice would be to ask her why she wants to be friends with her. Maybe she has changed. Give her a chance. If this does not work out, a way to solve this might be to hang out with her when the other girl is not around. If she has a different lunch time, hang out with her then or if you are in a different class that would work. This would be my advice to you. Best of luck. – Nava, 12, Oregon

Rachel, being friends is work. You have to feed a friendship, just like you have to water a plant. Talk to your friend. Tell her that you’re always going to be her friend, no matter who else she’s friends with. But also make it clear to her that you don’t want to be friends with the other girl. Work out a schedule with her if you have to. Just make sure you make time for your friend. Also, don’t be so closed off to the idea of the other girl as a friend. Maybe all she needs is a good influence, like you and your group. Good luck! – Jordan, 14, Canada

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