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I had the same problem a couple of months ago with my best friend. She was getting really jealous of my two new best friends for a while because she didn’t know them and she felt protective over me. This was understandable since we were friends for so long. At the start she couldn’t keep a secret either, but she’s learned. So my advice to you would be to sit down with your old best friend first and remind her you will always be there for her and introduce her to your new best friend and make her feel welcome. Then she’ll understand that you are both going to need space and sooner or later have different friends but she will always be your best friend this way nobody gets hurt and your happy because you get to tell your new best friend your secrets and your old best friend will still have you when she needs you. – Melissa, 17, Ireland

You can’t just totally discard your bestie. She has feelings too and you cant tell her that you don’t like her as much as Tara. Maybe try telling her that you want to be friends with Tara and that you could have two best friends. Do it somewhere private and try to break it gently. You never know maybe Tara and Emily could be friends too. – Lucy, 14, New Zealand

I think your friend Emily is a very insecure possessive person. She wants you all to herself. I had a friend like that and you want to know what it is? She’s insecure and possessive so she feeds off you to make up for the things she lacks. I would advise you to stay friends with her, but say to her "listen you don't own me and I really like Tara. She’s a lovely person and so are you, and if you don’t want me to have other friends then I'm sorry but I can’t stay friends with you." Honestly, friends like that are not true friends. Please trust me when I say that. – Bianka, 17, United Kingdom

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