We Can't Stop Arguing!

"Hey, Kendall" I know it hurts so much when even your parents can't understand you. It is true that some parents are harder to live with than the others. You must understand that, when someone is angry, most of the time he or she is not angry with you. He or she may not mean to say things they say when he or she is angry. He/She usually cannot control his/her emotion and thus just say or do anything that satisfies him or her. Your parents might be mad at somebody, and the anger is kept inside, just waiting for the time to explode. And right when you've made a mistake that is actually not all that big, they start pouring out their feelings, in a way that is "killing" you. So, when you want to talk to your parents, try talking to them when they're feeling more rational. You can even write a letter telling them what you feel when they do all that to you. But do not be mean, because that will just drive them crazy.

One important thing to remember when dealing with angry parents is not to lose your cool. Do relaxing things, like taking a walk around the neighborhood, or anything you like, to help you forget about your anger or disappointment for a while.

Whatever you do, you should not run away from home. They will find you somehow, sooner or later, and it'll make everything worse. (Editor's note: Parents know your friends phone numbers, and they can get the police involved if you're gone long enough)

Anyway, first of all, try to find out, is it really because of your parents or is it just the normal mood swings caused by the Pre-Menstrual Syndrome? This is temporary. Everything will turn out all right very soon.

I hope this helps.

Raja, 13, Malaysia