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But We're Different!

I have a identical twin sister. Up until this year, we dressed in the same clothes, and shared the same interests and friends. Now things are totally different. I am sporty and involved in a lot of sports. I also don't really care about my apperance and I don't bother with make-up. My sister is a real girly-girl and is always
talking about guys and things like that. She also wears make-up and spends an hour everyday worrying about her clothes. I can't be bothered. We have are also have two totally different groups of friends. My parents can't seem to understand how different we are! My mom will come home with new clothes for the two of us and they are the exact same. My dad just bought us both new backpacks for school, and yup, they are the same! We both had our twelfth birthday and we both got the same things practically. We have two totally different personalities and likes and dislikes but my mom and dad don't see that! How can I get them to understand that we may look alike but we are both two different girls and like different things? - Lucie

"Hey, Lucie!" You're right. Both you and your twin sister are two totally different people. I can see why you don't want to be treated the same, when your not even the same!

Have you and your twin sister both talked to your parents and told then how you feel? If you
haven't you should try that. Your parents might not even realize how important it is to you that
you get to express yourself according to your personalities.

If you feel that there still not getting the message then why don't you help them realize bit by bit. Maybe ask your mom when you go shopping if you can pick out clothes that you like. Or for your birthdays you can hint what type of present you want and your sister can do the same. Hopefully that will tell them that you like different stuff. For example:if you tell your dad that you want a new basketball and your sister tells him she wants a make-up kit your parents will see what type of stuff interest you.

I hope I helped you Lucie and I wish the best for you and your sister in helping your parents
discover the true you!!

Mecca, 12, California

And a second answer!
Oh dear, you are in a fix aren't you! But with a little patience and sensible discussion, your problem should be easily fixed. You say that your growing apart only began this year, so maybe your parents haven't really taken in the fact that you are into different things now. Or maybe they have noticed the differences, but they are so used to treating you as similar people that the idea of buying you different things hasn't crossed their minds. If this is the case, then all it should take for the problem to be righted is a little nudge in the right direction. Have a chat with your parents, explain that you'd much prefer if they took into account your different interests and personalities when shopping for you, and ask them if they could think of you as two separate people with different personalitites.

If you can, though, don't leave your sister out of it. Talk to her about the situation first, and find out how she feels. Then you can present a united front to your parents if you speak to them together. When you're speaking to your parents, stay calm and try to get the point across clearly.

Good luck, and don't let it get you down. Being a twin is a very special thing, and although it is nice to do things together, a person's individuality is important too, so go girl!

Rebecca, 13, England

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