I Don't Know Him... Should I Call?

"Hey, Amber!" I know how you feel, really! My parents split when I was only 2. My dad was around for awhile, but, then he just left! For 8 years, I heard from or saw him about 6 times. This past year, I hadn't seen or heard from him at all, even after he promised (again!) that he'd call me. But, on Father's Day, I got up the nerve to call him. Boy was I surprised when I heard his voice! I thought I'd get mad at him and blow my top, but I didn't. I actually felt relieved! My sister just got married last month, so I got to see him for the first time in a year. Now, he and I talk on the phone all the time! I still don't feel so close to him that I can tell him everything, but things have improved. Anywayz, if you don't feel comfortable around your dad, tell him...and your mother. They might do something to help you feel more comfortable. Don't try to rush into a father/daughter relationship full force until you are absolutely sure you're ready. You do know that Rome wasn't built in a day, right?

Chel, 17, Indiana USA

"Hey, Amber!" Here's what you can do. Tell your mom you need to kinda get close to your dad at your own pace. Don't rush into nothin'. Then tell your dad that you love him but you need space and time. Just tell them you want a strong relationship but you want things to move slowly. GOOD LUCK!!

Jessie, 12, Minnesota USA

"Hey, Amber!"The answer is pretty simple... Just talk to him. I know that it might seem odd at first, but he is a part of your family after all. You love him, and he loves you. Call him sometime, when you're ready, and tell him how odd it is. He should understand that you've lived with your mom all of your life, and having a dad for the first time is a little awkward. Chances are, he'll feel the same way. Obviously, your mom doesn't mind you calling him. It will be different, but you'll probably enjoy talking to him after a few times. I hope that I've helped some, and that you'll take my advice. Good luck!

Lindsay,10, Texas USA

 

 

I Want to Get Along!

My mom and I don't exactly see eye-to-eye. We get mad at each other a lot, and I'm really sick of it. Sometimes I feel that she doesn't even love me anymore. We don't really understand each other very well, so we always end up getting frustrated. I just want her to still love me. Help! - Megan, 13, USA

"Hey, Megan!" Your mom will always love you even if you have your arguments and fights. The best thing to do when you get into a fight with your mom is calmly talk to he about the problem after you've had time to cool off.You should both take turns and say what the problem is and what to do about it.Then come to an agreement about what to do. Hope this advice helps!