But I'm Growing Up, Mom!

"Hey, Sara!" Your Mom sounds like she is really nice, but like a lot of moms out there, she doesn't know how mature her kid is. When she tries to help you do something that you are doing just fine on your own, say something like, "I'll never learn how to do this right if you don't let me try." Or, "I'm doing okay, Mom," or, "I think I can handle it." Try to say all of these phrases respectfully and politely, so your mother doesn't take them wrong and get angry. Telling your Mom that you are doing okay on your own might not work at first, but hopefully your Mom will begin to get the picture. It's better than letting yourself 'boil over.'

If this tactic doesn't work, I would advise you to write a very nice letter to her, explaining how you feel. (You seem like a pretty good writer.) Make it sound mature and not angry. To help the letter sink in, sweetly remind your Mother about it whenever she begins to get 'helpful'. Sometimes letters work better than talking things out because a lot of times that just turns out to be an argument.

I'm not surprised that your friends laughed. Because the thought of someone's mom running a cart into a display is a little amusing. :) But I hear you. Be very careful when writing and reminding your mother of your letter. Also be careful when you are trying to tell your Mom that you don't need help so that she doesn't get angry. Most parents don't like being told how to act to their kids, but it is important that they don't treat you like a four year old. Try not to be annoyed with your Mom because she is just trying to help you.

Good Luck!

 

Alice, 12, Tennessee