It's Our Secret!

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Listen Arianna, I know that you might really like this guy. But if he doesn't really like you, then you shouldn't go out with him. If you know he is using you then why would you want to go out with him? I know you may think you really like him now, but if he's only using you than I can promise you aren't going to like him in a few weeks. And if he can't make you his main priority than why should you go out with him? You also need to think about this other girl’s feelings. If she finds out (and people will find out) how do you think she'll feel about you? Probably not too great. Even if he breaks up with her, he cheated on her for you. How do you know he won't cheat on you as soon as another girl comes along? You are worth a boy’s full time and attention and if he doesn't know that he's missing out. Wait for someone who really cares about you. – Rachel, 13, USA

I think you need to end it right away. Dating him while he has a girlfriend puts you in a really bad position. He's cheating on his girlfriend with you. If she finds out, it probably won't be too pretty. You also have to think about his other girlfriend's feelings. If she found out he was doing this, she would feel terrible. I know this because my boyfriend cheated on me, and it hurt – A LOT. Not only will it hurt her, but think about yourself. By dating her AND you, it just means he can't make up his mind, which pretty much means he doesn't care enough about you to be with ONLY you. So the best thing to do is tell him if he really cares about you, he'll break up with his other girlfriend THEN ask you out. If he doesn't, he obviously doesn't care as much as it may seem. So break it off and find a guy who's actually worth your time. I really hope I helped and I hope you figure out what to do! – Samantha, 15, Ohio (PenPal #15400)

OK, I know I'm a little bit younger than you are, but this happened to a close, personal friend of mine and I know what to do. You need to tell this boy that your secret relationship is wrong. It's wrong and nasty to have this boy start liking another girl before breaking up with his girlfriend. And if this boy is just using you, you need to end it before someone gets hurt; you, the boy, his girlfriend, or all three of you. Even if you don't want to break up with him, remember that he is just using you and he has a girlfriend. Be smart, even if this boy isn't. – Leah, 11, Pennsylvania

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