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She's Hurting Herself!

My friend started to cut herself.  Only me and a couple of our other friends know.  We’re very worried about her but we promised we wouldn’t tell anybody.  How do I get her to stop so she wont hurt herself anymore? – Chel, 15, Florida

Hi Chel! I'm really sorry that you have a friend that feels that awful about herself! Though you might not want to hear this, I think you know this is the right thing to do. You need to tell an adult, you CAN NOT I repeat CAN NOT handle this on your own! She may, for lack of a better term "hate you" but in the long run she will thank you for this. Cutting is a dangerous habit, and telling a trusted adult is really the only way you can handle it. Please tell an adult before she really hurts herself, and cut open an artery or etc. – Nikita, 13, Russia

Your friend is in trouble and needs help. She can't receive the help she needs without an adult being informed. I know you want to be a good friend by not telling like she asked you to. But if you are a true friend, you would be willing jeopardize to your friendship for her safety. You need to tell someone, or at least make a deal with her. Stand firm and tell her that if she does not stop her destructive behavior, you will tell an adult. You have to do what's best for her even if it means she'll be angry with you temporarily. Please do what's best for your friend. Cutting is dangerous and you could save her life. Good luck! – Sarah, 17, Michigan